Just the other week, I became part of a conversation regarding something of a new phenomenon. Grooms are starting to have a say in the wedding. This was totally unheard of 50 years ago and even 20 years ago. So what is it that has grooms taking an active role in wedding planning? It could be a number of factors.
The old tradition of the bride's family paying for the wedding is evolving into the couple paying for their own wedding. This could be due to the fact that based on the old tradition and during the times it was really prevalent, women were limited to the careers they were allowed to pursue and that is if they even chose to work outside of the home. Today, women have no choice but to work outside of the home and with this financial independence comes paying for their own wedding.
Since grooms are partially paying for their wedding, it only makes sense for them to express their opinions during the planning process. Do not get me wrong, most grooms are not discussing the differences between periwinkle blue and bubble gum pink (they have not revolted that bad), but when it comes to choosing the entertainment (DJ or band) or even the transportation, men are being heard.
Ladies, this new revolution may actually be a good thing for you because they can take some of the planning stress off of your shoulders. These are the tasks you would be able to trust them with. It goes without saying (then why am I saying it?) these decisions will need to be agreed on, but at least the groom now has the authority to do the research. Once the research is done and the appointments have been set, the couple should attend these appointments together because there could be nothing worse than the bride expecting a four string quartet during dinner and winding up with a heavy metal band (I know, that is a little dramatic, but you get the point).
So men, let me welcome you to the world of wedding planning! Women achieved the right to vote in 1920 and you have now achieved the right to voice your opinion for the wedding.
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